Like most of my readers, followers, and clients, I have struggled with negative body image. The feeling when you look in the mirror and you hate what you see to the point it becomes obsessively frustrating.. I know the feeling.
It not only damages your self-esteem and confidence about your physical appearance but it can inadvertently seep into other parts of life seemingly unrelated. It can change the way you eat and exercise. It can determine how your mood is for the day. It can make you irritable with situations and people that are innocent and don’t deserve your moody wrath!
But, I’m happy to say that you don’t need to let it run your life anymore. I’m happy to say I have some tools that have helped me and I’m sure can help you as well. You don’t have to have the “perfect” body to feel better in the one youre living in.
- STOP staring at yourself..WALK AWAY from the mirror: You really don’t need to criticize your reflection every chance you get. You don’t need to stare into the mirror and pick yourself apart. What good has that ever done you? It doesn’t get you closer to your goals, it just brings more resentment, sadness, frustration, and anger that never needed to be there in the first place. Hyper-focusing on your appearance can quickly become a compulsive habit. To start feeling better STOP staring.
- When you do look….take a step back: Physically, step back. Become a little more objective by reminding yourself that you are literally zooming in on your insecurities. By stepping back a little you can remind yourself that you’ve been focusing too much on a small part of the picture.
- Then, take a mental step back: Become mentally objective. Pretend you are looking at someone else’s body. How would you view them? How would you think about them? Would you be nearly as harsh, critical, and mean? You’d probably cut them more slack than you do yourself. Practice having an outsiders perspective.
- Become aware of your thought patterns: Acknowledge the self-deprecating thoughts you repeat to yourself..the ones that you KNOW are unhealthy. Without proper awareness of our own mental state, how can we move on to creating better mental health?
- Reframe, reframe, reframe: Change the thought. Create positive affirmations regarding the body parts you usually criticize. Whatever you tend to complain about (or feel “disgusting” about), find a way to make a compliment out if it. You may not be ready for something like “My abs are AMAZING! LOOK AT THIS EVERYBODY!”.. but, you can start with something more gentle like “Yeah, id like a flatter stomach…but, I’m making healthy choices and Im proud of myself! Look how cute I look!” The simple thought changes can lead to a BIG transformation in the way you feel.
- Walk away: Change the thought and leave on a good note. Don’t stick around the mirror to go back to your old ways you just worked so hard to get rid of. Keep on walking. Move on with your day. Don’t obsess
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